As promised on the facebook page (head over there if you haven’t visited yet!), I’m going to be doing a series for newly naturals. This will be ideal for those who have just decided to go natural, have just gone natural or are considering going natural.
So first things first: overcome your fears. You have to get to a place where you take the big decision yourself. This will involve you dispelling any fears or myths about going natural. It may help to read my own experience here.
At the time of writing, it’s a great time to go natural. People are a lot more receptive to it now than ever before but even if people weren’t that certainly shouldn’t be a hindrance. There are so many fears one may have when taking the step such; here are some with answers provided!
1. My hair is sooooo tough, I’m not going to be able to maintain it.
Wrong. However, I understand where this comes from. Many of us can recall the pain and the broken combs that resulted when our parents / hairdresser was doing our hair pre-relaxer days and this memory is what stops us from going natural. Firstly, God created us with textured hair and God doesn’t make mistakes. he wouldn’t create something that was impossible to manage (He never gives us more than we can handle). What we need to do is learn how to take care of our natural hair and I can assure you there will be no pain or ripping out of hair or broken combs when you do this. Check out this post for more information about maintaining natural hair.
2. I’ll have to cut all my hair off (Big Chop).
Nope not necessarily. Some people do choose to BC but you can alternatively transition. more details will be given on this in an upcoming post in this series so sit tight!
3. I won’t be attractive to guys anymore.
Quite honestly if the only reason a guy finds you attractive is because of your hair / physical appearance, he’s just not for you. Besides, there are many guys who LOVE girls with natural hair. Many guys find it incredibly attractive and love the fact that you are ‘going against the grain’. Honestly, guys should be the least of your problems. You’ve got the make the decision for YOU.
4. Natural hair is not for everybody and it won’t look nice on me.
As mentioned before, our hair is God-given and He does not make mistakes. Why should you have to modify your hair to look like another race’s to feel comfortable? We’ve all been fed this ‘ideal’ beauty by western society but in actual fact there is beauty in all. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and to He who created you, you look beautiful with your natural hair just as He created you. Many times it’s the society’s definition of beauty that dictates whether we think we are attractive or not. Let God and His word be your mirror, not the world.
5. Natural hair is expensive to maintain
Definitely not! In actual fact it cuts down on expenses (especially going to the hairdresser every 2 months for a relaxer and in between for steaming / treatments). What you may find though, is at the beginning of your journey you have to experiment a little to find out which products your hair likes before settling down but this doesn’t have to be an immediate hall of every single product in the world. You can control your expenditure and curtail it in a way that’s suitable. Check this post out for an idea of what I’m talking about.
Well folks that’s it for now! Watch out for the next post in this series.
Leave a comment below with your thoughts or any other ‘fears’ I’ve left out and I’ll update the post.
Toodles o’ Noodles :O)